|MEET MY BIRTH MOTHER|
|FOR OVER 17 YEARS, I SEARCHED FOR INFORMATION ON MY BIRTH FAMILY|
|THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE SEARCHING FOR BIRTH FAMILY VIA THE INTERNET, RESEARCHERS, AND PRIVATE INVESTIGATORS.
HERE IS AN EASIER AND LESS EXPENSIVE WAY TO GET THE ANSWERS YOU ARE SEEKING.
PLEASE PASS THIS WEBPAGE ON TO OTHERS!
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| THE CONFIDENTIAL INTERMEDIARY
After hiring a Computer Reseacher and a Private Investigator, I petitioned the court to open my birth records via a Confidential Intermediary (C.I.). THE COST WAS EXTREMELY REASONABLE. The C.I. was granted a court order, by the County Judge, to access any records needed to do the seach. You would not believe all the documents a C.I. can obtain! IF YOUR RECORDS ARE SEALED, I STRONGLY ENCOURAGE ADOPTEES TO FIND OUT IF A C.I. IS AVAILABLE. (IN THE STATE THE ADOPTION TOOK PLACE) AND PURSUE THIS AVENUE UNTIL MORE STATES OPEN ACCESS. Continuously search the Net for the latest changes in laws. Many states are making it easier to gain access to records or some information. Adoptees need to register with International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISSR) in NV- major database that makes matches. You can get the petition to open the records and C.I. forms from the county clerk's office, in the county the adoption took place. Make sure you also register with the Office of Vital Records in the state where the adoption took place. Remember....the longer you wait, the chance of finding any birth family grows slimmer. I found my first cousin through Soundex International due to the help of the confidential intermediator. My first cousin told me the history of the family and provided family pictures. My birth mom is deceased but I am still in contact with the cousin over the years.
It is foolish to think that a child, after months of living in a womb, would not be effected by separation from the mother. Most adoptees do not seek information about their birth parent(s) until an adoptive parent(s) dies. There is a great sense of loyalty to the adoptive family. Adoptees also seek information when they are about to become a parent themselves. Many states are realizing the need to exchange medical information and pictures. Only recently have professionals acknowledge the issues surrounding adoptees called, Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Many adoptees are misdiagnosed as having a Borderline Personality Disorder, OCD, Bi-Polar, Dependent Personality Disorder, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, or Adult Children of Alcoholics. There is a higher rate of suicide, childlessness, divorce, alcoholism, and other addictions among adoptees than the norm in society. For this reason, many adoptees are misdiagnosed.
People considering adoption, need to seek counseling prior to adopting. There are support groups and attachment centers throughout the U.S. to help families in need. Teachers and child caregivers need to be aware that a child was adopted and informed about demonstrative behavior relating to RAD. The sooner a parent recognizes the issues and seeks help, the greater the chances the child has to lead a "normal" life. As once said, you have nothing to fear but fear itself. God was there through it all and will be there when you need Him. He will never leave you, nor forsake you and He will never give you more than you can bear! Make sure you have a support group of friends, who know you well, to help you through this journey.
|HERE IS THE STORY THAT LED TO THIS PICTURE
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RAD Resources Link
Attachment Disorder Support Group
Issues over the Years
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|Updated 28 March 2006|